When it comes to dating, most people are not completely aware that the family dynamic you grew up knowing can affect the way you see your potential mate. We are influenced by the relationships we see among our parents and grandparents. Another thing we are influenced by is the environments we call home. We are not only affected by them, but we are also affected by the relationships we have with our siblings. Not a lot of people are aware of this fact, but it can cause you to become dateable or undateable to the opposite sex. In this article, we will gain a better understanding why men who grew up with a younger sister makes them better romantic partners than men who grew up with only brothers or as the only child in the house.
For people who date the opposite sex, dating always seemed like trying to save an impossible puzzle that never gets successfully placed together. It's as though you're dating a complete alien that you wish you were an expert in understanding their world, but it always becomes an impossible task. Luckily, for heterosexual men who grew up with their sisters, learning the opposite sex's language and their world became easy for them to understand through experience. They figured out why women stay so long in the bathroom, they had to become their sisters' listening ears whenever she experienced heartbreak, and they don't get easily grossed out by hearing the words menstrual cycle and tampon (well, not anymore). Now that they pass the stage of being easily disgusted and annoyed by the many things women do and have to go through. They gained a new found appreciation for women in their natural state. They no longer believe women are impossible creatures to understand and they become more dateable in the process.
Before I started dating, I too was unaware of this knowledge until recently. I have realized that most of the guys I dated and currently dating all grew up with a younger sister in their household. They all portrayed similar characteristics that I prefer my future husband to have. And no I don't ask guys on the first date if they have a younger sister before I agree to a second date, but maybe I should start doing that, and I'm going to tell you why.
As I was doing research on this topic, I learned that other bloggers especially women bloggers understood the same concept as I did and highly agreed with me. For the blogger, Taylor Kelly, she wrote an article titled, "7 Reasons why Men with Sisters Make Some of the Best Boyfriends", based on an experience of hers. She became inspired to write this article after dating a guy who grew up with a sister for the first time in her life. The very first thing she learned about most guys who grew up with a sister is that he's respectful and does not see you as only someone he can participate with in any sexual activities. He learned through experience when he acted like a trouble maker towards his sisters growing up and got in trouble for it or simply learned just by being around women for most of his life. The second thing she learned was that he's protective. According to Kelly, "a guy who has sisters has plenty of experience with being ready for any bad boy who may cross his path." He won't let anyone hurt you or even come near you, especially if he thinks you're in danger. For the third thing, she learned was something I mentioned earlier on how he saw his sisters' go through heartbreak. If he cares about you, then he won't want to see you go through the same pain. When it comes to guys who grew up with a younger sister, you should expect that he understands women well. Being able to comprehend women was the fourth thing she learned when she dated that guy who had two sisters. Since these type of guys grew up around women for most of his life, he seen how long women take while being in the bathroom, he saw the gross side of them such as their bloody pads in the trash cans and their messy rooms while also admiring the beauty of them. They can understand how important it is for them to be good listeners when a woman wants to talk about anything and I mean anything. By knowing this fact it makes it way easier to be comfortable around him, particularly in the beginning of your relationship and can be completely yourself. And when it comes to understanding women, he is aware that you too have emotions just like him and that is what blogger Taylor Kelly learned as well. He is even mindful of the fact that mood swings are in fact a real thing and understands that we might get fed up once in awhile, but he also knows that eventually, you'll calm down and that you do genuinely care about him. The sixth thing Taylor realized was the fact that by having a guy who has sisters, he's able to gain sound advice from them. And lastly, guys who grew up with sisters, have a better understanding of what you want from him in a relationship and friendship manner. He even understands that most women like to talk about any and everything with their girls and some of those topics just might be about him.
After looking over Kelly's list of pros for dating a guy who grew up with sisters, I couldn't agree more with her because I gained the same awareness when I dated these type of guys as well. Even though I felt as though Kelly made a good list to start off with, I was curious in finding out whether or not another blogger came up with a bigger list of positives. I was able to conclude that with the list created by Kim Quindlen. Kim came up with sixteen reasons why you should date a guy who grew up with all sisters; which so happens to be the title of her article. When I first started reading her article, I noticed she didn't include the inspiration for writing about this topic whereas Kelly included one in hers. When it comes to comparing both Taylor and Kim's lists, they both mentioned a lot of similar things they learned when it comes to guys who grew up with sisters. The difference between Kim and Kelly is that Kim expanded her list by totaling up to sixteen observations. For her first observation, she found that she was seen as "their confident, a sound board, and also as his best friend." I found this was very interesting because all the years I've been dating these type of guys, I always felt a comfortable vibe around them where I was able to be my entire self, but I never saw it as though they were like my best friend. Another observation that Kim found that Kelly never mentioned in her article. That observation was that guys who grew up with sisters understand that women work and achieve a lot of accomplishments just like men, and that does not intimidate them at all. These guys have seen their sisters complete achievements and accomplishments throughout his life, and he doesn't find it no different from his own so he will feel the same way when it comes to the women he chooses to date or marries. For Kim's next observation that wasn't included into Kelly's article was that these type of guys are very comfortable in their skin and don't feel threaten about their sexuality when they participate in activities that may make people question their masculinity. This quality is something I personally love when it comes to men because I feel as though a lot of men feel as though they must always have to prove their masculinity to other people, especially with other men. So it's very refreshing to see when I met a guy who doesn't question every move he makes because he's afraid that another male will see and call him gay. I know society places a lot of limitations when it comes to being considered a male in the world, but some things that guys feel they must prove to be considered a man are ridiculous. When it comes to another observation of Kim's list, it came off as off guard at first, but after thinking about it, I could completely agree. That observation was that they know exactly when they need to stay "the hell" away from us when we're mad. I can slightly agree because I have both experienced guys who knew they needed to stay away from me when I was angry with them, and I have dealt with guys who knew off the back that they needed to walk away and to come back later. You would think that by growing up with sisters that by growing up with sisters that all these guys would be very aware that when a woman is angry that it's best to walk away and try to talk it out later than to just stay and talk while she's currently mad. And lastly, when it comes to accepting women's achievements and accomplishments, these guys are very comfortable with working with the ladies in a professional setting and not feel the need to make it a big deal about it because they see them as a fellow counterpart.
In the article, we discussed how males who grew up living with a sister makes them more dateable partners when they get older. Not only were you able to receive my input, but we were able to gain more advantages from the bloggers, Kim Quindlen and Taylor Kelly. Both of these bloggers mentioned having similar observations when they dated these type of guys, but Quindlen's list came up to a total of sixteen advantages whereas Kelly only came up with seven. After reading this article, you should have a clearer understanding on why I mentioned earlier in the text that I should start asking guys if they grew up with a sister on the first date. Did this article make you feel the same way as me after going over the list of advantages?
16 reasons you should date a guy who grew up with all sisters
https://thoughtcatalog.com/kim-quindlen/2016/07/16-reasons-you-should-date-a-guy-who-grew-up-with-all-sisters/
7 reasons why men with sisters make some of the best boyfriends
http://elitedaily.com/dating/mans-brotherly-love-may-beneficial-relationship/648571/
For people who date the opposite sex, dating always seemed like trying to save an impossible puzzle that never gets successfully placed together. It's as though you're dating a complete alien that you wish you were an expert in understanding their world, but it always becomes an impossible task. Luckily, for heterosexual men who grew up with their sisters, learning the opposite sex's language and their world became easy for them to understand through experience. They figured out why women stay so long in the bathroom, they had to become their sisters' listening ears whenever she experienced heartbreak, and they don't get easily grossed out by hearing the words menstrual cycle and tampon (well, not anymore). Now that they pass the stage of being easily disgusted and annoyed by the many things women do and have to go through. They gained a new found appreciation for women in their natural state. They no longer believe women are impossible creatures to understand and they become more dateable in the process.
Before I started dating, I too was unaware of this knowledge until recently. I have realized that most of the guys I dated and currently dating all grew up with a younger sister in their household. They all portrayed similar characteristics that I prefer my future husband to have. And no I don't ask guys on the first date if they have a younger sister before I agree to a second date, but maybe I should start doing that, and I'm going to tell you why.
As I was doing research on this topic, I learned that other bloggers especially women bloggers understood the same concept as I did and highly agreed with me. For the blogger, Taylor Kelly, she wrote an article titled, "7 Reasons why Men with Sisters Make Some of the Best Boyfriends", based on an experience of hers. She became inspired to write this article after dating a guy who grew up with a sister for the first time in her life. The very first thing she learned about most guys who grew up with a sister is that he's respectful and does not see you as only someone he can participate with in any sexual activities. He learned through experience when he acted like a trouble maker towards his sisters growing up and got in trouble for it or simply learned just by being around women for most of his life. The second thing she learned was that he's protective. According to Kelly, "a guy who has sisters has plenty of experience with being ready for any bad boy who may cross his path." He won't let anyone hurt you or even come near you, especially if he thinks you're in danger. For the third thing, she learned was something I mentioned earlier on how he saw his sisters' go through heartbreak. If he cares about you, then he won't want to see you go through the same pain. When it comes to guys who grew up with a younger sister, you should expect that he understands women well. Being able to comprehend women was the fourth thing she learned when she dated that guy who had two sisters. Since these type of guys grew up around women for most of his life, he seen how long women take while being in the bathroom, he saw the gross side of them such as their bloody pads in the trash cans and their messy rooms while also admiring the beauty of them. They can understand how important it is for them to be good listeners when a woman wants to talk about anything and I mean anything. By knowing this fact it makes it way easier to be comfortable around him, particularly in the beginning of your relationship and can be completely yourself. And when it comes to understanding women, he is aware that you too have emotions just like him and that is what blogger Taylor Kelly learned as well. He is even mindful of the fact that mood swings are in fact a real thing and understands that we might get fed up once in awhile, but he also knows that eventually, you'll calm down and that you do genuinely care about him. The sixth thing Taylor realized was the fact that by having a guy who has sisters, he's able to gain sound advice from them. And lastly, guys who grew up with sisters, have a better understanding of what you want from him in a relationship and friendship manner. He even understands that most women like to talk about any and everything with their girls and some of those topics just might be about him.
After looking over Kelly's list of pros for dating a guy who grew up with sisters, I couldn't agree more with her because I gained the same awareness when I dated these type of guys as well. Even though I felt as though Kelly made a good list to start off with, I was curious in finding out whether or not another blogger came up with a bigger list of positives. I was able to conclude that with the list created by Kim Quindlen. Kim came up with sixteen reasons why you should date a guy who grew up with all sisters; which so happens to be the title of her article. When I first started reading her article, I noticed she didn't include the inspiration for writing about this topic whereas Kelly included one in hers. When it comes to comparing both Taylor and Kim's lists, they both mentioned a lot of similar things they learned when it comes to guys who grew up with sisters. The difference between Kim and Kelly is that Kim expanded her list by totaling up to sixteen observations. For her first observation, she found that she was seen as "their confident, a sound board, and also as his best friend." I found this was very interesting because all the years I've been dating these type of guys, I always felt a comfortable vibe around them where I was able to be my entire self, but I never saw it as though they were like my best friend. Another observation that Kim found that Kelly never mentioned in her article. That observation was that guys who grew up with sisters understand that women work and achieve a lot of accomplishments just like men, and that does not intimidate them at all. These guys have seen their sisters complete achievements and accomplishments throughout his life, and he doesn't find it no different from his own so he will feel the same way when it comes to the women he chooses to date or marries. For Kim's next observation that wasn't included into Kelly's article was that these type of guys are very comfortable in their skin and don't feel threaten about their sexuality when they participate in activities that may make people question their masculinity. This quality is something I personally love when it comes to men because I feel as though a lot of men feel as though they must always have to prove their masculinity to other people, especially with other men. So it's very refreshing to see when I met a guy who doesn't question every move he makes because he's afraid that another male will see and call him gay. I know society places a lot of limitations when it comes to being considered a male in the world, but some things that guys feel they must prove to be considered a man are ridiculous. When it comes to another observation of Kim's list, it came off as off guard at first, but after thinking about it, I could completely agree. That observation was that they know exactly when they need to stay "the hell" away from us when we're mad. I can slightly agree because I have both experienced guys who knew they needed to stay away from me when I was angry with them, and I have dealt with guys who knew off the back that they needed to walk away and to come back later. You would think that by growing up with sisters that by growing up with sisters that all these guys would be very aware that when a woman is angry that it's best to walk away and try to talk it out later than to just stay and talk while she's currently mad. And lastly, when it comes to accepting women's achievements and accomplishments, these guys are very comfortable with working with the ladies in a professional setting and not feel the need to make it a big deal about it because they see them as a fellow counterpart.
In the article, we discussed how males who grew up living with a sister makes them more dateable partners when they get older. Not only were you able to receive my input, but we were able to gain more advantages from the bloggers, Kim Quindlen and Taylor Kelly. Both of these bloggers mentioned having similar observations when they dated these type of guys, but Quindlen's list came up to a total of sixteen advantages whereas Kelly only came up with seven. After reading this article, you should have a clearer understanding on why I mentioned earlier in the text that I should start asking guys if they grew up with a sister on the first date. Did this article make you feel the same way as me after going over the list of advantages?
Sources
16 reasons you should date a guy who grew up with all sisters
https://thoughtcatalog.com/kim-quindlen/2016/07/16-reasons-you-should-date-a-guy-who-grew-up-with-all-sisters/
7 reasons why men with sisters make some of the best boyfriends
http://elitedaily.com/dating/mans-brotherly-love-may-beneficial-relationship/648571/
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